Hello Skeezyks:

I truly appreciate your reply. I actually had my therapist appointment this morning and she told me if was an irrational request on my Sons part. My son had pointed out to me that if I really cared about his feelings that I would invite him. That's when I told him if it means that much to you then you can come. However, deep down I still just wanted to bond with my girlfriends as this was our annual tradition and its always nice to catch up with them. I eventually became very frustrated as all of this drama was building up right before the event which made me feel like he had rained on my parade. At this point I actually thought he would show up so I texted him the day of the party and asked if they were coming to the party, his response was "what party?" Wow. I'm just beside myself. And actually I'm not in a good place right now because, Christmas is his wife's favorite holiday and wants to have him at her parents house for both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. Last year I struggled with him to come over at least for 2 hours. Now that this girls party issue started along with some other issues, he told me today that he will not be seeing me this weekend for Christmas. I'm so heartbroken and feel like I need to place a wall up with my son to avoid the continuous jabs and pain this is causing me.