I've always wanted to know why some people hang out with others out of obligation. It has happened to me in the past, where I will hang out with someone and they will appear to enjoy my company but then I find out later that I was never wanted or that the person just hung out with me out of obligation, pity, or boredom. And the worst part is that they will get annoyed at me for it. That would annoy me and I al,oat told someone to just simply stop hanging out with me if they were going to act that way.

I didn't want to cause problems and come off as immature but I'd much rather someone not hang out with me at all than hang out with me because they feel like they have to. I don't get why people get annoyed too when they are clearly the ones making the decision to hang out out of obligation. Like I've had cases where I would be doing my own thing and someone would ask me to hang out, and then they get annoyed that I agreed to hang out. Or vise versa, in a rare case were I ask someone if they want to hang out, they say yes but secretly wish they were with other people.

It got to the point where I would stop hanging around some people who did that stuff, even if it wasn't towards me. There was someone I used to hang out with who would accept someone else's request to hang out and while she was out with that person, she would be texting me wishing she was anywhere else but with that person. That some person had the tendency to do that to me as well. I eventually stopped hanging with that "friend" since she could not be honest.

I am a lot better at being able to prevent that stuff from happening to me. Now that I've had quite a bit of experience in dealing with those unfortunate situations, I have a much easier time of avoiding people like that. But I will still hear some people complaining to others that they dislike hanging with a certain person but they still hang with that person out of obligation. I feel like the lie is way more hurtful than the truth. I'd rather someone full out reject me than hang out with me out of obligation. Anyone understand why this happens? It just confuses me and is very annoying and rude in my opinion. Basically it is leading someone on in a false sense that they are friends when they really aren't.