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Old Dec 23, 2016, 09:28 AM
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Originally Posted by escapeartist View Post
I still live less than a mile from where the abuse happened. I have to take detours to avoid the abuser's old house to prevent flashbacks. I get frustrated because this place has so many bad memories. I really want to move, but sometimes I think it's pointless and I don't think anywhere else would be better.
Thoughts?
I grew up in an abusive household. It landed me back living with my parents in 2014 because I lost my career job due to the recession. Try as I might to get ahead--I couldn't. I'm a professor who graduated during the recession, and had been teaching adjunct for the past 2 years. I took the advice of my old Advisor in undergrad--and decided to go back and pick up a Master's degree. This time--I chose 6,000 miles away from home, across the pond: Israel.

My Rabbi had moved from New York to Israel about 9 years ago--so I had support coming. What I can testify to--is that no one can run away from their problems. However, after about 4-5 months here? I was able to clearly divide the depression and anxiety I had to tolerate every day living with my family/ residing with them in the same city vs the actual anxiety that wasn't THEM.

Moving will help you. Guess what? You won't have to take detours every day and drive around your horrible past. Because you won't be doing this anymore? You won't be triggered in that way anymore in the morning.
It will also allow you the opportunity to see (once that anxiety is no longer there on a daily basis)--how it was triggering you in a negative way each day.

It's worth a try isn't it?

Why give someone the power from your past--to make you feel like crap each day when they themselves? They don't care.