it seems to me that my T does get upset over some things i do like doing drugs or not eating. i have seen him get upset, and he tells me he is frustrated, sad, etc. knowing these things upset him does help me to think twice about what i am doing, but i dont know if that is healthy... as i am basically only not doing it to please him. i want to be in the place where i dont do these things for my own self. i dont know how to get to that point though