I don't know...I ask myself the same question...I own a house ...but it is no different..but also I have been out of the relationship for over 10 years now and I can honestly say with redecorating (nothing big..same rooms...)...but painted...made it REALLY my own...the memories have faded..

The only room that upsets me is my sons old room brings me back to the past quickly..but I haven't changed that room at all. I know you live in housing...but maybe if you came up with some paint ideas or something and shared your dilemma with a social worker and the powers that be the environment could be changed enough to ease your symptoms and make you feel more "empowered" about your situation?