Yes, i think they should point out the behaviors, generally.

My therapist always does this, but is usually not judgemental. But there have been a couple of times that caused ruptures.

I think the problems occur when they dont connect it with your past, like understanding why youd do it (eg to protect yourself). Also not mitigating the negative woth positive points or encouragement.

By the way, my therapist is not directive, i am in psychoanalytic therapy. (So Its not always associated with more directive therapies)

Im also thinking-how in the world could therapy help if they dont bring self destructive patterns or blindspots to your attention?