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Originally Posted by Mapper
I want so badly to volunteer at this animal sanctuary. I was scheduled to go to an orientation one Saturday in August. My husband hadn't been to work all week and promised me he'd go in that day. He didn't. I was so upset I just stayed in bed half the day and didn't go. I've thought several times about going to another orientation as they have one every week but my fear is that I'm just going to be so upset about him not going to work, which happens all the time, that I'm not going to want to be a volunteer. He's going to upset me so much that all I'll want to do is go to bed and cry and not be around other people.
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It seems that the anxiety of anticipating future angry responses from him is pretty disabling. These kinds of situations can trigger downward spirals and make matters worse. As unpleasant as it is, those are his problems which he needs to focus on, his displeasure is not a reflection of your worth or identity.
I think the animal shelter sounds like a great idea, a very admirable hobby to pursue. I hope that you are able to make the arrangements in order to have it work out.