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Old Dec 23, 2016, 12:17 PM
leejosepho leejosepho is offline
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Originally Posted by AllHeart View Post
... Whatever she does usually helps to uncover some of the reasons why I do these unhealthy things repeatedly, point out the patterns, or something therapeutic. Sometimes she will outright express her disappointment to me or will half jokingly say something like, "Nooo! Not again!?!" No matter what her reactions, she never condones nor condemns. Any way she addresses me with disapproval is done with love, compassion, and understanding.
There you go: "...she never condones nor condemns...disapproval is done with love, compassion, and understanding."

We each have a right to believe as we wish and to act on our beliefs to see what might actually happen, and then a wink from someone knowledgeable and trustworthy rhetorically asking "How well is that working out for you?" does not have to be perceived as condemning.
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| manic-depressive with psychotic tendencies (1977) | chronic alcoholism (1981) | Asperger burnout (2010) | mood disorder - nos / personality disorder - nos / generalized anxiety disorder (2011) | chronic back pain / peripheral neuropathy / partial visual impairment | Gastrointestinal Stromal Tumors (incurable cancer) |
Thanks for this!
AllHeart, newday2020