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Originally Posted by Journey-Man
It seems that the anxiety of anticipating future angry responses from him is pretty disabling. These kinds of situations can trigger downward spirals and make matters worse. As unpleasant as it is, those are his problems which he needs to focus on, his displeasure is not a reflection of your worth or identity.
I think the animal shelter sounds like a great idea, a very admirable hobby to pursue. I hope that you are able to make the arrangements in order to have it work out.
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His reactions are basically why I don't do anything. I have joined a gym several times, but always stop the membership because I'm always anxious to get home because he might not have gone into work that day and is wondering why I'm not home yet and will make some sarcastic comment about me being out with the "pool boy". Or he's getting upset that I'm leaving the house to go work out and will say "Oh you're so bored with me you need to go to the gym". If I tell him I'm going for a walk he'll sarcastically go "Ooooo, that sounds like loads of fun". If I turn off the tv and read he thinks I'm in a bad mood or being weird. He gets upset if I clean too much.