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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I think seeing his actual photo is different from saying he looks like someone. I don't think it was a joke or childish. I don't remember so clearly but I think she said people say he looks like G.C., not just that she thinks so. I suppose I will tell her that maybe she shouldn't have said anything. Actually, it's irrelevant. I'm jealous of T because she has someone and I'm alone.
I like what you wrote, Mona. I have the small parts who want T to myself. Correct. But I also have an adult part who would like to maybe have a partner again. I'm not sure. I know my T tries to do her best for all of her clients. I think she got frustrated because we've talked a lot about why we can't be friends and my wanting to be in her life and there's no answer except to build up my Self and radically accept the reality of the therapeutic relationship.
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Yes this is very true rainbow but also to accept that you do have feelings for your t. You are jealous of her relationship with her boyfriend and that it's ok to feel this way. It's not right or wrong it just is. In exploring this you will learn more about the feelings and where they are coming from. I think that by not allowing them, it's shaming and they are being told that it's wrong to have them and acknowledge them. They are your feelings and you are entitled to them. You love your t very much and this is confusing when the concept of boundaries are introduced. We are open with our ts about our relationships but they are not so open with us and that is both confusing and hurtful because it can feel like rejection. It's nothing personal though it's their job to do what is best for us as clients and not for them. It sounds as though this is where your own t got mixed up because a part of her was excited to tell you her new bf was like GC but then realised that was not beneficial to you and withdrew.