I married him because he was the first man who actually cared enough to stay with me and not leave at the drop of a hat. Other guys would date me for a few months and then all of a sudden just stop calling, stop talking to me and sometimes they'd have the guts to tell me they didn't want to see me anymore and sometimes they just disappeared. It was usually due to the fact that I would always make up excuses as to why I couldn't go out with them or stay overnight with them or travel with them because I had to please my mom who, even though I wasn't living with her, I'd have to be there on Sunday morning to take her to church and spend the day with her because she expected it. So no going away for a weekend with a guy (because all my mom could take away from that is that we'd be sleeping in the same bed. Nothing about being with the person, just the fact that I'm 30 years old and we could possibly be sleeping in the same bed!) Sometimes I'd have to make up excuses as to why I couldn't go somewhere for the day with them because my Mom expected me to hang out with her and I don't want to make my mom mad because then I'd get the silent treatment. H understood that. H stayed with me even when we were long distance for 4 years. He called me, he visited me, I visited him, he wanted me to be with him. He tells me know how much he loves me.

But his actions now are all about what HE wants. He is unhappy at work because it's the slow season and there's nothing to do and they cut out half his commission so why should he continue to work there unless they offer him extra vacation to cover the deduction. He seems to think he is the only person in the shop that this is happening to when it's happening to everyone.Yet apparently sitting at home playing video games and not working at all is what he needs to do. If I confront him on it he just gets angry and then tells me (to cover up) that it's all part of a plan that he's working on. Mostly he feels if he isn't there for a week then they'll realize just how valuable he is and offer him the commission again or give him another perk. Because, you know, in every job he is the BEST person there and deserves everything. And he doesn't seem to care that every time he does this (which is just about every month now) it upsets me so much but he continues to do it. Promises me day after day he'll go in the next day and I know he won't.