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Originally Posted by Mapper
It sure does! I can't even cut up a carrot without stressing out or freezing when he walks into the room because most likely he'll tell me that I need to use a different knife or I should cut it a certain way and then he'll take it away from me and show me the "correct" way to do it. I never used to think twice about how I was cutting up vegetables before I met him. Then when I get upset that he's doing that he goes "I'm just trying to help you out". Help what??
He was out in the garage with his air compressor and asked me to go and unplug his keyboard and bring it out so he could get all the gunk out from in between the keys because he was in the middle of something. I went to unplug it and sure enough he drops what he was doing (even though he asked ME to do it so he wouldn't have to!) and comes in because he thought I wasn't able to do that simple task without screwing it up. Boy, I sure showed him I knew how to unplug that keyboard!
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From the sound of it, it seems like there is almost his voice in your head always criticizing what you're doing. As if even when he doesn't provide that negative reinforcement, you do so yourself by simulating his responses, even in anticipation of an action.
How much of what he says about you do you think is actually true concerning you? Do you recognize that he is speaking from his own insecurities and anger, or do you easily find reasons to vindicate his or your own negative talk?