Dear vibrating,

Don't feel alone. That's a common reaction and I've felt my share of heart distress when I feel that I'm being criticized or confronted. For me the cause was twofold: one, in my own mind I had formed a belief that if someone said something critical or if I saw any signs of disapproval, I would react with anxiety or even panic; two, I fixated on how I felt and as a result made myself obsessed about what kind of reaction I would have. Ironically, this was fixation made me think about how I felt all the time and caused me to react just as I feared.

With that said, for me the best thing has been mindfulness meditation because it helped me learn how to sit with these crazy thoughts and uncomfortable physical sensations. I couldn't make them go away intentionally but by learning to not be afraid of them it helped me tremendously:

Here's a link to Jon Kabat Zinn (a master of mindfulness)


This is not a mindfulness meditation but I just love the music.


I also suggested anything by Michael Sealey (just type his name into youtube).

I also use diaphragmatic breathing to help when the tension is high (like I'm giving a public presentation). This is a post from my blog.

How To Stop A Panic Attack

I'm not a big believer in supplements but I think teas are wonderful. Also, just sharing your fears and concerns is curative. You have already done something good. Don't give up; keep reaching out; it will get better; I promise.

Jason