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Originally Posted by justafriend306
Well I am guilty of this, but it has always occured when I have also been in the company of others as a group. It would have been awfully rude of me to have been rude, ignorred, or unpleasant to that individual I really didn't care for. Yes, I try to be fair and pleasant out of a sense of obligation to do so. Another example is the whole staff or office thing. I will treat everyone fairly even those I can't stand or I don't think deserving. I don't think I've ever said to someone I don't care for "I don't like you" "I don't want to spend time with you" etc. I've been snubbed numerous times myself which is perhaps why I am reluctant to do the same.
On another note, are you constantly evaluating acquaintanceships and looking for something wrong? I came to the realization I was doing this. It was as though I couldn't accept that I was likeable and tried to find a negative message in everything. These days I try to be more positive and seek out what is good.
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Makes sense. I will admit, I am guilty of doing it only in group situations as well and even at work too in order to prevent conflict. But I'd be more honest if it was one in one in private. There are ways to politely reject someone by being honest but not being too rude. Just a simple I don't want to hang out would be fine.
And yeah I don't feel likeable since I have been snubbed and rejected too many times. Happened too often for it to be just a coincidence so therefore I feel unlikeable and I feel like I've become really good at ready body language and social cues and just being able to tell if someone doesn't want me around or not.