Why do you think she will refer you out? Is she new to being a therapist? Transference is a pretty typical thing in therapy; if you're afraid she'll not be able to work through it with you, you might want to find another T. Sorry to be so blunt, but transference happens even outside therapy, so Ts usually know how to deal w/it in therapy. Erotic transference, however, is a different story. Is that what you're referring to?