hi sophiesmom...thanks for responding
You are right...when I first met him...he was on a prison bracelet (hence sober because he was drug tested) and I was sober 8 years...and we had a good stretch of sobriety together at the start of our relationship and it was a beautiful thing.

I know all relationships pretty much start out good...but this was just beautiful..our first date basically ended in a graveyard...sitting on the grass.

He had never been to his brothers grave. I had met him at a resturaunt for our first meeting and said I had to go to a graveyard to visit my friend (trying to end the date only because I didn't want to seem so eager)...and he asked what graveyard. I told him and he said my brother is there and I have never been.

I wanting to help/fix everyone....said...wow...I will help you find him...and we did find him and sat on the grass on a real sunny beautiful day and talked until dusk....then I went home to meet his sister....it was just like we were meant to be from the beginning.