Huge family eruption. One fam member wants me to submit and be silent so we can heal and go back to the way things were (yanno, the good old days of suppression and denial). I said, Oh, you mean when I was shut out of everything and shunned? That option actually wouldn't be a problem for me because then I could just walk away, but that won't work for them either, because I am the main caregiver. And also, being silent would allow them to walk scott free, without accounting for past abuse, and that's not going to happen. Not anymore. Merry Christmas everyone, bring it on.