I don't see anything wrong with what she's saying (what does "anally" mean? I don't understand that word).But clearly you do. You've been dissatisfied with her way of doing therapy since the beginning. You find the most random examples to convince yourself your therapist is mean to you or doesn't understand you. You said therapy didn't help you. I don't understand why you are still with her: you don't find it helpful at all and you're not attached to your therapist so why are you still going? You must find something of value in this therapy. Otherwise, why go? I'm sorry to be blunt, I'm really not trying to blame you at all. It's just that since you clearly don't think this is helping, why not stop going? If you were attached to your therapist it would be different but you are not attached.