His brother has asked me not to come to the wedding. My boyfriend is now distraught, apparently it was the brother's idea from the beginning. He may have been trying to cover for his brother. He told his brother and his brother said he didn't care.

While his brother is a jerk, he has been quite friendly the past few years, and he usually greets me by kissing me on the cheek. My boyfriend said he is very confused.

I have been dating my boyfriend since 1999. We broke up for two years in the middle.

I stayed with his family during the week last year while I was a student. I'm not close to his brother or the fiance, but I was invited and went to the shower.

His brother knows we are planning on getting married, although we haven't announced it yet.