I know it hurts to hear, but what do you think of the fact that she considers you to be rigid / ****? What would that mean to you? Are there ways that you consider yourself rigid? Could it hurt because you, too, are afraid that you are this way?

You don't need to give me an answer to these questions. They are more for you to think about. That is where real change occurs. Then maybe you can have a conversation with your therapist about what it means for you.