Yeah I agree with you. Yeah that is actually another thing I've noticed that I forgot to mention. I will actually be invited to a group event but then someone else they really like backs out and the person who invited me just cancels plans all together, which in certain cases is okay but other times it is annoying. And yeah the whole thing about someone inviting me and then getting frustrated when I accept is confusing too. One example is when I was invited to hang out with someone and after the hangout, the person stopped talking to me. Turns out she only befriended me out of pity and was mad that I accepted her invite and thought I was strange or something. That was in high school. Also I was invited to a couple graduation parties, only to find out later I was never really wanted there.

More recently when I was in college, I had a casual friend that invited someone else to do something but then told me she was mad that she had to pick the friend up. She knew she would have to do so since her friend didn't drive but still, if you are planning on hanging out with someone and it involves driving and someone doesn't have a car, then she should understand that she will have to drive the person. She could have just asked for gas money, I've given people gas money before. And apparently that same friend has gotten mad at me behind my back for the same reason.

The friend that drove had the tendency to inconvenience herself. We live an hour apart and I have offered to meet her halfway which would require me to use public transit. I use it a lot so I have no problems doing so, I'm very comfortable with it and take the exact same trolley and bus route every time I go from my house to visit the college I graduated from which is an hour away. A couple times she strongly urged me not to take public transit, and instead, drove an hour all the way to my house, then all the way back to hers. And then back again a couple times. I told her that is not necessary, but she really insisted. I offered gas money but she didn't accept. And she got annoyed afterwards. That's the kind of behavior that confused me.

Usually I feel bad about people driving me around, and I always offer gas money, but for this one friend, I actually started to feel less bad since she kept on offering rides to people even when she secretly hated it. I even told her a couple times, if she doesn't want to drive someone, then don't do it. She is only hurting herself in my opinion. I really don't hang out with her anymore, but the rare cases that I do, I only do it when I am already going up to the north hills to visit the college I graduated from, which is much closer to her house. Probably about 20 minutes. So yeah, those are some examples of people inviting me to do something or go to an event, and then getting annoyed.