I very much relate to this. And it definitely pressurizes things.

While there are parts you don't have control over, there are things that you do (of course). And very likely among those are some that could be dialed back or even blown off. The things we put on ourselves.

It's very much like holidays. Some things that seem necessary or obligatorily a "given", really aren't upon closer examination. See if you can figure out what some of those are, and adjust accordingly. Don't confine your consideration to things "in the situation", but to everyday life as well.

Coping skills are very useful of course, but simplfying can be a big help too.

Good luck, Tucson!