The first few months are very hard but it gets better. I am on the other side though, I chose to leave my ex H. It was still the one of the hardest things I've ever done but I had to for my mental health. That being said...we didn't speak for 2 months, texted information when necessary. He had surgery the beginning of the 3rd month and I stayed with him at the hospital and his home for a day. I got guilted into trying to get back together somehow, so I agreed to date and see what happened. It was so awkward, we never kissed or held hands on the dates, it was the same behaviors as before I left. This went on for about 3 months. He did something very intrusive and at that point I realized I just could not ever go back to him. I cried, he cried..I went and filed the divorce papers.

It is now 2 years since I left. And it has taken a very long time but he and I are friendly...not friends. But we both agreed we didn't want to be those people who couldn't be in the same room together. We still help each other out occasionally with things. He looked at the house I bought to give an opinion, I watch his house when he is gone. Other things as well. We have two kids together and a grandchild. So we knew we would have to be in each other's lives.

But this really has only been going on since the baby was born in the spring. so...it took maybe 16 months? The hardest part of everything for me? one of my kids refused to even talk to me for the first 10 months after I left. the baby changed everything thank goodness.