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Old Dec 24, 2016, 05:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Skies View Post
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I feel like in my therapy, im currently going through the separation individuation phase, where im becoming a separate person from my therapist. Thats related to a big rupture we had. Any 'unenmeshment', where my therapist steps away from me in a sense, causes destabilization, but that is because your psyche is restructuring. I dont know all the formal terms for this stuff, but am convinced this is how it works.

I have to be honest and say i truly think therapy with a psychoanalyst is what it takes for that kind of structural change.

Hope this helps.
Many thanks. I appreciate your perspective very much.

When we had the rupture without repair my last T did refer me to someone with more psychoanalysis training than she had. She was a specialist in trauma and dissociation and did help me with that. I feel like my psyche may be trying to do the (healthy, whole) young adult thing and move away from my last T and therapy in general, but I'm . . .69! So there are some life stage issues plus very ingrained habits.

I'm not going to try another therapy but my last T and I have had some email and snail mail correspondence and it's possible I may still "make it" as something other than a false or broken self. I have a sense of a "bubble" or something encompassing the now mostly fit-together pieces. It feels like the "psychological skin" I've heard people talk about but didn't have much meaning to me. So, maybe?? . . .
Thanks for this!
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