Are you familiar with the therapy approach called Modern Psychoanalysis, developed by Hyman Spotnitz? It is meant to target these issues and dealing with issues around narcissistic development and wounds are central to it. It also works with a type of connection with the therapist they call narcissistic transference. My first T practiced this and was very married to this approach, believed that most psychological issues can be addressed with it. I could see why he loved it so much, he clearly was a textbook example for a person who benefits from it. I did not find it very helpful, probably because I don't have the kind of problems it targets and I felt the T was forcing me into a mold that did not fit at all, but I can easily see how others with the kind of problems it targets can use it well.