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I am sorry but the way this thread is going is just exactly what I am talking about.
Anytime a woman talks about legitimate problems with the lack of equality between the sexes, people (women too!) call them "man bashers" and then women start backpeddling and apologizing.

When are women going to stop apologizing for asserting themselves and saying what the reality is?

The fact that there are a few good guys in the mix doesn't mean that there isn't a problem -- a systemic social problem.

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AMEN! AMEN! - You have what I have been thinking about for the last two days and what I was going to come here this morning to say......

YOU just said it way much better than I could have -

What I have personally found as a member here on PC is that I am one of the rare few women here that will express what they need to concerning our thoughts and fears of being in a relationship with a male - BUT then we inadvertently after speaking our mind (from our POV) we sit back and wait for the "back lashing" to begin, we wait for more trouble to be stirred up than what needed to be in the first place by the protesting that comes in the defense of MEN instead of trying to help with the problem at hand.

I personally would not feel the need to come to the defense of ALL WOMEN just because a MALE member on here might have expressed an issue they have with the opposite sex..... I personally would validate his feelings from his side of the fence and then see what solution we could come up with together.

Maybe the next time a female expresses her feelings about a male or most men in general - maybe just maybe we all can see the problem from their concern and not act a little child that just got scolded by mommy....... all feelings are real and should be validated not bashed or more wrong is being done than any good can ever come out of the bashing when some one is brave enough to express their true feelings.

I feel the same way for any MAN that needs to talk about how HE feels toward FEMALES....... I am not one sides here, for if a male needs to express how he cannot trust female or how he believes that most females are *****y - I would allow it (always have) - for ALL FEELINGS COUNT (even if I see the subject in a brighter light).

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