Opening up to believing someone else cares and caring for someone else is scary. You don't always know what the other person will say or do.

I journal a lot and share the majority of it with my t, so things like this come out in my journaling quite some time before it is talked about in session. In those journal entries, I let her know how scared I am about the topic and what I fear might happen.

My session yesterday consisted of ... well from my t's email...
I am glad that we had the chance yesterday to communicate how much we value and care for one another. Your openness and candor made that possible.

I had said something about being her job, a bit later she asked me if I thought that I was just her job (she added the just). I told her that I have no doubt that she cares for me, cares for me a lot. She said she did. She was able to provide the nonverbal communication that left me feeling like I was seeing the authentic her - not Dr t... but the person she is. She also said... what we each do with those feelings are different. At which point, I said that was her job; how she handled her feelings for me, what she did with them, how she used them to help me. And that is what I needed from her.

Attachment goes both ways and I think that is when the therapy might do its most magic, when there is the healthy attachment from a t helping/guiding the client's attachment into a healthy construct. <-- in my opinion.