youOme,

Do you want permission or advice? Advice: sleeping with someone elses husband is a bad idea. You said it yourself, the world if full of gray no black and white. What makes you think that you'll be able to just walk away? It's not that easy. Besides, you already know the answer to that question, if you didn't, you would have slept with him long ago. You know it's wrong but want someone to give you permission.

You're situation is not unique sadly. It's wonderful that you're standing up for yourself and putting your husband on notice. Outstanding, well done! Keep it up!

Now a little advice you didn't ask for which is more important by far then whethere you have a one night stand with anyone. You do not say how old your kids are, but they see a lot more than adults give them credit for. They feel the tension in the house, they see the anger, frustration and resentment. You think a degree is the best thing you can do for your kids? You're wrong, and I'm speaking from experience from the CHILD'S point of view, the best thing that you can do for your kids is give them a peaceful home where they don't have to worry that the slightest thing sets off one or the both of you. This is not just my own experience but sadly my nephew and niece as well, 3 years old, worrying if mommy and daddy are going to fight, the five year old well on his way to an ulcer because he has to worry about things a five year old shouldn't have to worry about. I'll stop now because as you can see this is a sensitive topic that I could go on for hours about.

You're on the right path. Follow your instincts and give your children a loving, peaceful home.