Zijax, one of the best things I remember from an outpatient DBT for use disorders was "we aim for abstinence." But if we slip or use or relapse or however we define it ourselves, we "then move into harm reduction" meaning that we do everything possible to get back to abstinence as quickly as possibly with as little harm or damage as possible.

Slips happen. Relapse happens.

I have been attempting to stay sober for 11 years now. I have had various lengths of sobriety and many relapses. I keep reminding myself, that over those 11 years, I have been sober for more time than I have been using. For me, that is an accomplishment in itself.