i think "mad" was a poor choice of words on her part. i used to struggle with the idea a lot.. of feeling outraged or disappointed in how people felt. i'm better at it now. i try to accept that we all have the right to think or feel how we choose to, but i don't have to accepts *how* they choose to think. i try not to judge someone based on their opinions.... generally. i have been ignorant at times and held opinions i am nnow ashamed of... but we can't change people's opinions, they have to do that themselves. An exchange of ideas allows people to consider other points of view, whereas argument and judgment do not.

and no, i am not saying you are feeling or saying anything wrong. it is what it is.

who knows how this woman came to feel as she does?

i think it's ok to express your own views, but what you said about tolerating disappointment is key here... it isn't whether you can express how you feel, it's *how* you do it and when you should or shouldn't. Tolerance of others is not as simple as it sounds.

i do think you have a right to be a little pissed at T. She should not bring in all sorts of philosophical reasoning that does not correlate to where you are at. She needs to walk in your world and not the other way around. She can adhere to all manner of abstract philosophy but it is unfair to expect you to join her in that. (it's mad )