Hi retro,

same here. I have no childhood history of 'big' abuse, or catastrophic events. However there was continuous (emotional) neglect, and me and my siblings were brought up to completely deny our own desires and needs for a 'greater good' (grew up as pastor's kid in a fundamentalist church).

Depending on your temperament, your environment and other factors things like that can leave you traumatized. It's not just the "size" of the traumatic event/s but also continuous patterns that might run through your childhood/past. And this might seem rather "small" in comparison to physical/sexual abuse.

Pete Walker (psychologist/therapis from S.F.) has done a lot of writing on how this "small" stuff can leave you traumatized. Also he's done a lot of writing on how to deal with this. I find his books really helpful, do look him up if you fancy doing some reading on this matter, he's got a lot of articles on his website.

hugs, c_r