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Old Dec 25, 2016, 07:54 AM
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Originally Posted by prefabsprout View Post
I agree people have the right to comment as they see fit and thank you Seesaw for all the supportive comments you have left me.

I know personally when I post it's often to express, to be heard, and I'm grateful for the opportunity to do that here. This is an amazing community.

I do sometimes feel that even when someone posts as disclaimer as Mapper did about venting some members are compelled to offer advice. Advice is not always what's needed imo.

My heart sinks when I see posts from members who express frustations that OPs are still stuck on the same issue, that person is likely feeling stuck themselves and expressing our own frustration is not helpful. We can choose not to reply to a thread or even put someone on ignore. But to tell them to post elsewhere, like a blog could really lead to feelings of rejection. If you can't be listened to without judgement on PC then where can you?

Not taking anything away from this community - as I say you are all amazing. I guess this is a difference of opinion about what support actually constists of. To me it's often just allowing expression without judgement.
I agree that the OP should be allowed to vent if that's what she needs. And I think it's perfectly okay for others to offer suggestions for how to cope with her situation, if they feel they have valuable advice. I think the thing to remember is what Sabby posted recently, which is to make sure that what you post is always in the spirit of giving support to the OP. I think if we always consider whether or not what we are going to say will be supportive or not, and not just out of our own frustration with the OP's situation, then we won't go wrong.

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