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what would be wrong with saying to someone that you felt let down now because of what they said?

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Because all of us, you too, have separate minds, thoughts, opinions, beliefs.

Your co-worker is fully entitled to her views and they are about her.

Your reaction to her views is about you (internal).

There is nothing wrong with having thoughts about your co-worker's views. You can think she is wrong or mad herself. But the feeling you have about what she said is coming from inside you, not from her holding the views she holds or the content of her view.

If you think that chocolate is the best ice cream flavor and I think that vanilla is the best ice cream flavor, I might strongly disagree with you and want to change your mind. But you are entitled to choose your own views on the best ice cream flavor. If I'm let down because you choose chocolate instead of vanilla that is coming from me, not from your view on ice cream. Also I might tell you why I think vanilla is best, but I can't demand or expect you to change your view to my view.

Sharing views is interesting and enlightening for the sake of sharing itself. What, if anything, happens from that exchange is not in our control. We might change our view, the other person might change their view.

Neither view is wrong or right. They are just separate.