I can't do that, una. My mom lives 8 hours from me. We can't just do something sometime. I made the time to come up here to visit them. I asked if they would like me to visit. I asked if they had room and it would affect their plans. I did what an appropriate guest does. I don't borrow money from them and not pay it back then expect them to buy me expensive Christmas gifts. I don't then show up at Christmas without gifts for them and expect me and all my friends to be fed. Her husband wonders why his kids have turned out the way they did and blames it all on their mother but he accepts their behavior too. And he enables their behavior too. I can't do it. I won't spend my free time around those kind of people. I have my limits.