Regarding this, there's some part of Freudian theory about the "**** stage" of development and problems with that process can show up in adulthood as a rigid, perfectionist personality, being "**** retentive." So possibly that was what she was talking about.

ETA: sorry, to be clear, the forum is blocking out the word a.n.a.l.

The other things you mention, I'm not sure why you interpret them as mocking and hurtful. You seem to really dislike this therapist.