Thanks. She said all this at the same time. I donīt see a point in being told about shortcomings, I canīt change them because I know about them, a different approach is needed. By hearing what I feel is critizism I just estrange myself from the situation and the way she acts and talks to me is not a successful kind of intervention.
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Originally Posted by Skies
Did she say these all at once or little by little?
If you want to feel better, i think you at least need to be aware of the things that block the change you are looking for. How she delivers it is important. Gentle confrontatation vs. shaming.
Otherwise, how can someone change if they dont know what to work on? I agree its ideal for it to come from you, but sometines confrontation is used when a person is not seeing things after some time. I say this now, because i think my therapist recently did a more agressive confrontation. I read about it a bit in trauma therapy books, and its a technique to help propel someone forward.
Sort of like ISTPT, short term intensive psychodynamic therapy, dont recall the exact name, but its for people with limited time.
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