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Old Dec 25, 2016, 06:05 PM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. I don´t see her as mean but she´s far from showing unconditional positive regard and she uses ways to approach me that just have the opposite effect, diminishing my trust in her. She seems to think she can jolt me by using expressions like being "in need of a ****" or using gibes but when I have had a few days to settle after such sayings I just try to ignore what she said. If she uses critique, jokes and similar and I realise she does that to break through a resistance I just go into my shell instead, she won´t be successful in meeting me in such a way.

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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia View Post
Sarah, if you re-read your OP, perhaps you will see that there is always your interpretation attached to what the T said to you, putting it in a negative context and as though she is being mean to you. Perhaps she is saying these things because you did not respond to more neutral/subtle interventions, to try and somehow break through a resistance?
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