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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
Thanks. I donīt see her as mean but sheīs far from showing unconditional positive regard and she uses ways to approach me that just have the opposite effect, diminishing my trust in her. She seems to think she can jolt me by using expressions like being "in need of a ****" or using gibes but when I have had a few days to settle after such sayings I just try to ignore what she said. If she uses critique, jokes and similar and I realise she does that to break through a resistance I just go into my shell instead, she wonīt be successful in meeting me in such a way.
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Originally Posted by SarahSweden
I mean approach as a part of my T:s therapeutic technique, if I feel shamed, critizised or ridiculed, of course thatīs not an approach that takes me forward.
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To me, these statements sound pretty insightful, like you understand yourself and how you respond to your T pretty well. You've written before about some of her limitations, as you see it specifically in relation to helping you with anything. But I wonder -- in learning yourself about how you respond to her and her criticism and shaming -- will that perhaps in any way help, at least in terms of your own self-knowledge?
That might be something which you have gotten out of this therapy? Other than that, it doesn't seem like this T is helping you very much?