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Old Dec 25, 2016, 10:37 PM
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Originally Posted by rainbow8 View Post
This is so stupid but I want to find out who T's bf is. I am used to looking for needles in haystacks. I have a first name and the fact that he's a T and lives in my city or nearby. I know something else besides the actor he looks like but I don't want to divulge that. Now it's a challenge to me but I know it's unproductive and wasting my time. If T told me I'd know and then I wouldn't have to find him. I don't think it's about the picture; it's about knowing who he is.

I know I'm crossing T's boundaries but I still want to find him. The first name isn't so common but I don't see any possibilities when I google. I found one but I think he's too young for T.

I realize this thread sets me up for all kinds of attacks. I hope maybe some understanding too.
What if the problem is not about needing to see a picture, or about your therapist's boundaries? What if it's that your therapist is encouraging you to get to the bottom of a compulsion that takes many forms? Because if it's not the picture of her boyfriend, it will be something else (or could be, if the pattern holds).
Thanks for this!
Lauliza, rainbow8