Hi
I have been unemployed for a month and a friend of mine is an aspiring coach with some experience, so when we found ourselves at a party, she was presumably trying to help me.

I am going to recall her words and behaviour and ask for an opinion and advice. So here is what she did.

We were already after a few drinks when she approached me, sat next to me and started speaking to me in a way which I found pleasant, although unusual.
She told me about life opportunities, about her two degrees (I have none). The she switched to a fast and endless flow of narrative of how she (allegedly) went to a very small and poor village where all men were just sitting and drinking all day. When they saw her, they were in an awe of how educated she was. Then progressed by switching to "you" meaning sometimes myself and sometimes everyone. Thus, she would say "when you have no job, can't do anything except one thing, you are lost, wasting time just sitting and doing nothing".
Then, she got back to the awe they all felt for her and while looking me deep in the eyes, she quoted them asking "what degrees do you have? what is your job" - and touched me on my arm.

I noticed that I felt abused. I did not want to interrupt her just to see things done as in the funeral scene in Godfather. I find it deeply disappointing that rather than help me, she was trying to increase her advantage over me and get me to feel hopeless.

This is not help, is it?, even if what followed was a "solution": "Now imagine you have several hundred pounds and there are so many things you can do, you can take so many courses..."
I find double meaning here. One would expect professional courses, but she belongs to a religious groups which organises lots of religious gatherings, which are referred to as "courses".

Is there any hope for such a relationship? My reasoning is that even if what she did did not make me hurt - probably because I spotted the con - but the very attempt to do that takes a peculiar attitude.

If I tell her I know, she may simply change her strategy to find another loophole. I guess I should just let her go.

What do you think?