It is so hard in the beginning of sorting through all the stuff. It can take a long long time before one gets to a place of being able to use grounding skills effectively all the time (or even some of the time). Don't give up on them and don't be hard on yourself when you try and it just doesn't work. One day all those times you tried will have made a difference and it will work. Right now you are doing the best you can with what you've got. Just hang in there, and look after you as best you can today.