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Old Dec 26, 2016, 04:54 PM
Anonymous37933
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Thank you everyone. She is my partner's close friend, so I am not going to be able to avoid her completely. I have already made my partner aware of what happened.

Indeed, my question was not clear. What I meant was, a one-off attempt of this kind is sufficient to tell there is no hope for acquaintance even, except very superficial and possibly remote, isn't that right?
As for counselling or something similar, what I asked was if there is such an approach in any legitimate school of therapy. Not that I would want that woman to "help" me anymore, but I am just trying to find out if this could have been a failed attempt to help me, or - given the number of red flags - it clearly was an attempt to mess with me and make me adhere to the religious movement.

There is another aspect of all that.
I have already taken a lot of effort to make my life free of such drains. I have gone to therapy, taken one-on-one training in spotting such stuff, I tend to leave places where the level of destructiveness gets out of hand. What I have managed to do is to have a lasting, wonderful, pure, nurturing relationship with my partner, whereas, what I see around is that most people I come across are in terrible, sadomasochistic interdependancy.

It could be more intense now because I have changed the country and restarting professionally, but even before, it was happening way to often.

Could it be that I am attracting predators? That would contrast with the fact that most people consider me strong, self-confident and relaxed.