Have you tried journaling? I have found direction and some understanding in unedited journaling. Unedited, meaning that I just write whatever comes to my mind. I thank that part of me for being there and doing what it has done for me. Then I welcome that part to "say" whatever it would like to be known. That may sound "out there" but I just go with it.

After I feel that "it's done" I go back and read what was written. It's validating to that part and also it has given me a direction to go.

The main thing, is to not limit or edit what comes. Don't even think about it. Just write what comes. That gives that part of you value and a voice to be heard.