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Old Dec 26, 2016, 10:05 PM
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Originally Posted by artemis-within View Post
I can imagine! One time not too long ago we had scheduled only 30 minutes but I asked to extend it to the normal time and of course she was agreeable and yes, it did deepen. I think that will happen with going 90 minutes too.
There have been times that our marriage counselor has let our sessions go as long as 15 or 20 minutes over, and that has made a significant difference at times. I think it's hard to fit human emotions into a 45-50 minute window. MC seems to try to make the session end on a good note and not stop based on time if things are still tense/one of us (usually me!) is upset/in a bad place. It often makes him run late--which can be a bit annoying if he's, say 15 minutes late for us--but I feel it's an acceptable tradeoff because he gives us the extra time we need sometimes, too. (I have mouthed "sorry!" to his clients in the waiting room when leaving before).

But there were definitely times with both MC and T where I knew in advance that I wished I could have had more time. T is pretty strict on time boundaries--even if she doesn't seem to have someone right after me (like, there's no beep on her office phone indicating her next client had arrived and/or there was no one in the waiting room). But MC seems to fit it more to the situation. Pretty sure I'd be the same was as him if I were a T. Though, as T has mentioned before, MC has to apologize a lot to clients for being late.