I get that, but a person's history doesn't give a client carte blanche to do what they want. Actually, anyone can do whatever they want, and perhaps we can understand why people do what they do, right or wrong, but sometimes there can be consequences to our actions regardless of motivation, like them or not. People have limits.

Rainbow already realizes she's crossing a boundary; she stated so in her first post. But she's choosing to do it anyway. She can choose to do differently out of respect for her therapist who she respects greatly otherwise. Perhaps Rainbow, you can get your actions to match your feelings for your therapist and respectfully control your impulse to find out more than your therapist would choose to share at this point.