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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
See, that's interesting. The therapist hasn't always been happy about rainbow's interest in her personal life...but still accepts her. I mean, I think people on here are more critical and shaming of rainbow than her therapist is. Maybe that's what the compulsion is: to keep checking that the therapist accepts her (even though I don't think the googling represents any boundary violation).
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Good post...(And to me the shaming of posters--including myself in previous threads--is a big issue. One can offer commentary and even criticism without shaming.)
This is the case with me--making sure I'm still accepted by T and MC (or H, or friends...), even if I do something that I'm ashamed of. That's the biggest thing to me. You make a good point that if Rainbow's T still accepts her, maybe that's the most important thing? Well, that, and what could be learned from Rainbow's desire to learn that information about T's boyfriend. It doesn't matter if everyone on the forum would accept Rainbow if they were in T's place. It just matters what her T does and feels.