That's the thing though-Rainbow said she is crossing the boundary, not the therapist. Some of us grew up 'walking on eggshells' afraid we were going to cross a boundary that had nothing to do with a real boundary. Like don't talk when father is home because father has to work. Child crosses boundary by asking for a drink of water.

There's a clinical term for this, I forget. Where any impulse of the child gets restricted, which turns into OC traits as an adult. The person even develops constricted affect after not feeling safe expressing oneself growing up over and over. And I do remember Rainbow said she didn't grow up with abuse, but a parent who is stressed about working, for example, can fulfill this pattern.

In that way, you can go around thinking anything you do that causes a reaction in another is 'crossing a boundary', when in fact, it is not unless the presumably healthy person states it is so.