My boyfriend (well, my now ex-boyfriend) broke up with me a few months ago. We had taken a short break, at his request, in February, but got back together. Then, a few months ago, he said the relationship wasn't working for him and he ended things.

Background: I had been laid off from my job and was really struggling. He eventually told me that he broke up with me because my depression over that was too much for him to handle.

All I want to do is “fix” things. I'm so sad and can't seem to move forward. I can't stop replaying everything over and over in my head and wishing I would have done things differently. I am so mad at myself for causing the breakup with my sadness.

We had tried to be friends after the breakup, but then he decided we needed more time apart. That was four months ago. I think the ball is supposed to be in his court. Still, I constantly want to reach out to him. The only reason I don’t is that I’m afraid he’ll say he doesn’t want to see me at all and I’ll feel even worse.

There's no one else around I feel as comfortable with as I did with him. It kills me that he's not in my life. I want him to know how much I miss him, but I don't know how well that will go over. I know he's done a much better job of moving on that I have.

Is there ever a time to ask for another chance? Will doing that just push him away? Is there a good approach for getting a guy back in your life?

Any advice on how to feel better? I read books on breakups. Try to meditate. See a therapist. But nothing seems to work. I still cry every day. I feel like I’m being torn apart.