I have one friend in particular who I am very close to. I never had a problem helping her through her problems and listening. She calls me every day, but she can be needy. I really do go above and beyond and don't mind helping her, but I do have a problem when I'm taken for granted.

I do try to set boundaries. Sometimes she accepts them, other times, she takes things personally. For instance, I can't always hang on the phone for an hour. Once when I couldn't do something for her, she sent passive-aggressive texts that I think I'm "better than her." I thought we worked through this problem where she apologized for this a month ago. I asked her where she was coming from, and we patched things up. I believe she was talking out of insecurity since she does have a lot of emotional issues.

Tonight, I was already feeling down and low about myself. Then out of nowhere (around 12 AM), I get a whole string of texts on how I 'think I'm better than her,' and she continues putting me down. This was in response to the disagreement we had a month ago where she made that accusation (that I thought we patched up). Lately, she flips between being kind, caring, and understanding, to being completely needy and even insulting when she can't have it her way. It also hurts, that I've shared some of my deepest issues with her, so she should know better that I feel very vulnerable, and I'm hard on myself....so I don't need others making it worse, although she has a lot of her own emotional issues.

I texted her tonight how she hurt me and placed me in a position where I was forced to defend myself when I'm going through my own issues. Getting insulting texts at 12 AM from someone I'm always there for, is hard for me to accept. Although she apologizes, it's hard for me to just 'shrug it off,' because I feel she has taken advantage of my kindness. I feel betrayed. I thought her and I were past this.

I'm trying to decide how to proceed. I don't know if I can trust her. It also hurts that she did this right around Christmas time at a late hour. I even sent her something nice for Christmas and did not hear if she ever received it, but that's not my main concern here.

I'm not saying that she hasn't been there for me......she has, but I'm already in a fragile state of mind, and this is making it worse. She says she appreciates me, but there's starting to be red flags, and now I'm starting to feel like a punching bag, although she apologized. I try to be sympathetic that she's going through a hard time, but so am I. How do you deal with a friend like this? I don't know if this time I should accept her apology, since it's no longer an isolated incident.