Just thought I'd chime in, too.

I'm lucky to have very unselfish men in my life. My father would do anything to help anyone out - my brother and I especially. My brother is the same way. He spent hours on the phone explaining things to me when I was trying to figure out what digital camera I wanted to purchase (he was supposed to be working on his thesis at the time). My grandfather, uncle, and cousins are always looking out for the women in their lives. Could they do better? Sure, but couldn't we all be a better person if we tried?

My husband is the least selfish person I know. He constantly gives, gives, gives. Most of the time I'm the selfish one. He makes me want to be a better person. He thinks of me whenever he does something and does everything he can do to make me happy. He also tries to compromise with people at work so that everyone is satisfied with the outcome. Sure it takes more work, but it's the right thing to do.

Furthermore, I'm constantly impressed by his colleagues and students. Perhaps it's the military aspect of the school. DH just finished boys soccer for the season and his players are amazing. They always speak when they see me. The never let me carry heavy objects by myself. They open the door for me. They're polite, they're respectful, they're all-around good kids and every single one of them is male.

Sweeping generalizations aren't fair. My cousin's wife moved to a new state and made some comments about the low income "trashy" look of the town. Trust me, there are enough low income "trashy" looking places where she was from. We must always be aware of what we are saying and who we may be hurting when we say it. As a teacher, I'm proud of my students, ALL my students, for their unselfishness. They think of others first and genuinely want to help.

Maybe instead of focusing on the negative, we should focus on the positive things. Choosing to have a positive attitude makes all the difference in the world. I've seen it and experienced it first hand.

I choose to believe people, in general, are kind, decent, and unselfish.